What are your thoughts about DIVORCE?

[c-square]

Dwalin is distracting the conversation away by mentioning pedophiles and terrorists (I'm surprised he didn't mention Hitler); while he might not be doing so intentionally, I suggest to not follow that line because it has nothing to do with divorce.

Oh oh, I can bring it back on topic!!  (Pick me!  Pick me!!)  

If you found out your spouse was a pedophile or a terrorist would you divorce him/her?

Actually, in an honest question, for those who agree with divorce, what are things you would consider deal-breakers (i.e. grounds for divorce)?

[Dwalin]

Dwalin is distracting the conversation away by mentioning pedophiles and terrorists (I'm surprised he didn't mention Hitler); while he might not be doing so intentionally, I suggest to not follow that line because it has nothing to do with divorce.

It was just an example meant to show that one shouldn't be too extreme in following the thought that morality is subjective. If we do so, then we could conclude that EVERYBODY is moral in some way. And no, I didn't say that to distract the conversation from the original topic. By the way, I don't believe you really are surprised that I didn't mention Hitler because, even though you may disagree with me, I am sure you perfectly understand what I meant. There is no need to mock me.

If you found out your spouse was a pedophile or a terrorist would you divorce him/her?

Of course I would, I said in my first post that there are cases in which I don't see anything wrong with divorce. The bad thing is that such situations exist.

[mangaluva]

Actually, in an honest question, for those who agree with divorce, what are things you would consider deal-breakers (i.e. grounds for divorce)?

I'd consider my partner lying about something major, such as, y'know, murdering someone, or having a kid with someone else. Repeated affairs would tick me right off too. I know anyone can do stupid shit when they're drunk and at a party, but one stupid mistake is all you'd get. Also, if my partner turned out to be abusive, I'd dump their ass in a cold second.

And, obviously, if they turned out to be a pedophile or a terrorist XD

But I'd hope that I know my partner well enough and be close enough to them before getting married that the above situations would not arise.

[Suutashi]

My parents divorced when I was 11, and I was completely fine with that; plus divorce rates are becoming extremely high these days. I don't agree, though, with the ideology of "staying for the sake of the kids" since if two individuals can't live with each other, they shouldn't be forced to live with each other. Kids aren't oblivious to the relationship between their parents, so the atmosphere in the house might be impossible and damaging for the children as well.

That's the reason my own mother didn't try to divorce my dad until my brother and I were 18. However, she chose not to because she could not risk my dad or his parents getting custody of us. We were both special needs kids and did not psychos looking after us. However, I doubt this is the exact same reason every other parents choose not to fill for divorce when it came to their child'/children's well being. After all,  what is the number one cause for divorce these day? Money, that's what! So really the whole "staying for the sake of the kids" is likely just a sham of an excuse to not pay child support.

[dilbertschalter]

My parents divorced when I was 11, and I was completely fine with that; plus divorce rates are becoming extremely high these days. I don't agree, though, with the ideology of "staying for the sake of the kids" since if two individuals can't live with each other, they shouldn't be forced to live with each other. Kids aren't oblivious to the relationship between their parents, so the atmosphere in the house might be impossible and damaging for the children as well.

That's the reason my own mother didn't try to divorce my dad until my brother and I were 18. However, she chose not to because she could not risk my dad or his parents getting custody of us. We were both special needs kids and did not psychos looking after us. However, I doubt this is the exact same reason every other parents choose not to fill for divorce when it came to their child'/children's well being. After all,  what is the number one cause for divorce these day? Money, that's what! So really the whole "staying for the sake of the kids" is likely just a sham of an excuse to not pay child support.

there is a lot of debate over the most common cause of divorce (and indeed over whether such a question as "what is the most common cause?" is a reasonable one), but infidelity and lack of compatibility are generally regarded as the most important causes.

[Abs.]

When I was a wee tyke my peers thought being divorced was the best thing ever, as it apparently saved their parents loads of money. They suggested that everyone's parents should divorce.

[mangaluva]

When I was a kid, I thought you had to get divorced after being married a certain amount of time because all of my friends' parents were divorced and mine weren't. Scared me to death for a couple of years before my parents explained divorce to me when my aunt got one.

[Dwalin]

Anyway, I find extremely sad the fact that some people are fine with THEIR OWN parents being divorced. I know, in some cases it's the best solution, but to suggest that everybody's parents should divorce like was said in Abs's post horrifies me to death. Seriously, it's a miracle that the "complete freedom" supporters still acknowledge the fact that at least SOME things (like murder or theft) shouldn't be allowed.

And something I wanted to say to Kor specifically: before you say the last sentence has nothing to do with divorce and start mocking me again, I would ask you at least not to pretend you don't understand the link between that last sentence and what was said previously.

[mangaluva]

The people that I know that are fine with their parents being divorced are fine with it because the fighting while their parents were together was just too distressing. Most of them far prefer being around their parents on their own, when they're happy and relaxed. Some of them have quite good relationships with their stepparents.

As with anything, it's subjective. Different people will feel differently about it, and everyone has a different marital situation.

[Abs.]

Murder or theft is punishable by law (usually imprisonment and/or death). Dwalin wants to make divorce punishable by law as well?

[ranger]

why do we keep making these threads?!!!

[Dwalin]

Murder or theft is punishable by law (usually imprisonment and/or death). Dwalin wants to make divorce punishable by law as well?

No, I never said that. But I think saying everybody's parents should divorce is just crazy.
By the way, I never meant to start an argument about divorce. My first post was about my approval of the initial statement some users made that everybody should think carefully about the possibility of divorce before getting married. Also, I said that it's a bad thing that there are situations in which divorce is the best solution. It all started with dilbertshalter's reply to me about "freedom" which had nothing to do with my initial post.

[Abs.]

Murder or theft is punishable by law (usually imprisonment and/or death). Dwalin wants to make divorce punishable by law as well?

No, I never said that. But I think saying everybody's parents should divorce is just crazy.

Pretty sure everyone agrees that saying everybody's parents should divorce is just crazy.

btw, translation: "wee tyke" means "small child," as in, perhaps the age of the DBs

[doublemoonlight]

this sort of discussion is I guess what makes ryuk from death note say " humans are... interesting..."

[ranger]

this sort of discussion is I guess what makes ryuk from death note say " humans are... interesting..."

lmao, nice dude