Xela wrote:
It´s really bothering me how everyone claims that Shinichi is the egoist while Ran is the "poor victim". Even though he said that it would be okay if she forgets about him and just get happy, he still loves her and I think it´s pretty understandable that he wouldn´t all cheery about Ran moving on while he himself has to live as another person.
As you said, it´s a nightmare. He knows and thinks that if there´s really no way out, Ran should forget about him- but can you blame him for fearing that situation? If he had no problem with this thought at all, someone should give him the prize for being the most selfless person in the world- and that would give him more Mary-Sue-characteristics which you all seem to hate on him.
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Sexism much? Just because he´s guy doesn´t mean that he isn´t suffering just as much as Ran- or a lot more.
Shinichi prooved many times that he cares more about Ran´s feelings and well-being than about his own. Does the fear that Ran might forget about him immediately makes him an egoist?
He's having the time of his life as Conan. He's living with the person he cares about most, even taking her for granted (14.1-p3), and solving all the cases he comes across. Sure, he feels bad when he sees her crying about him, but he's never actually acted on what he said to Haibara. It's nowhere close to Ran's situation, never knowing when she'll get to see him again, and for a good part of the story never knowing when she'll even hear his voice again. So far the sacrifice is mostly hers.
If, as I suspect, he'll eventually have to choose between Ran and a life as a lone wolf detective then I'd give him respect for making a permanent sacrifice he'll regret at least a bit no matter the choice. I'd still probably see him as presumptuous and disrespectful if he has time to give Ran a chance to make an informed choice whether to share the danger and doesn't let her choose, but I'd still respect it as making a tough sacrifice for her sake.
By the way, I doubt someone in Ran's situation would ever just forget about Shin'ichi if he just disappeared, even if romance weren't involved. It would be too much like losing a close relative. Heck, I've seen folks crying about lost pets when they're reminded of them years later .